One of the important things about being out, especially at the beginning of the protests given my platform, is that I didn’t want people to think that the only way that I had a platform was by hiding. I didn’t want any gay young boy or girl or trans person to think that the only way to make an impact is to hide your identity. So it was important to be publicly out really early. With that said, I spent so much time on the issues of policing and writing about structural things that I just wasn’t writing about myself at all.
It started out as a tweet: “Just because you didn’t know doesn’t mean I was hiding.” I’ve been in “the quiet,” not the closet. People can tell you about their identity on their own terms, but just because you didn’t know doesn’t mean someone was hiding this big secret from you. And so many of us are waiting for other people to signal that they also are in the Quiet, so they can realize that they’re not alone. I think about what happened at the protests — all of a sudden the Quiet is able to make noise.